This article is part 1 of a 3 part series on the requirements of being a full time mom. The articles in the series are:
Part 1: Do you have what it takes to become a fulltime mom?
Part 2: Full time mom job description
Part 3: Full time mom personality profile, skills matrix and personality traits
Very few moms can say the thought of becoming a full time mom never crossed their minds. It is a career choice we all have to make at some stage, and for some, the choice comes around more than once.
Having gone for interviews, employing staff and contractors I would guess that there would be a proper job description for a full time mom. Other than some mom jokes I couldn’t really come across a proper description or personality prototype. So herewith my thoughts on becoming a full time, aka “stay at home” mom.
So…what I have learned is that at least for the first three to six years (and longer if you have more kids) you have to die to yourself every day. The first time around is probably the hardest only because under general circumstances up until now the world has revolved around us, the kids…then we grow up, study or start to work, earn money and become even more independent and well, selfish. We do what we want, when we want, where we want to, for as long as we can afford to. And then, strike one- you have a baby, and you’re a rookie. I have friends who say “my baby came second and the baby must fit into my lifestyle” ...believe me, I have tried that. It sounds so simple…and then they hit month four, become over stimulated by all the fun stuff around them and your little angel loses her halo.
Second time around you realize that it must have been a lot easier with one since now you have to carry two kids around when just wanting to pop into the closest grocery store because you ran out of milk. You can’t leave them at home and you most definitely can’t leave them in the car. And so it takes 15minutes to get into the car (at best), 7 to get out, who knows how long to get to the fridge with all the sweeties and toys along the way… and so you end up walking through the valley of temptation, to the till to pay for your milk. (I cant say I always end up with just the milk- I'm also very much a kid at heart :)